Why Does Our Culture React So Negatively to Disability Activism?

Why does our culture react so negatively to disability activism?

Disclaimer: This article is written from my perspective as a young, disabled adult that lives in New Zealand. Whenever I mention “culture” in this article I am referring to western culture, specifically western culture as adapted to by New Zealand. I haven’t done much traveling so I can’t say if other countries with similar cultures react the same way, however, I have seen accounts of similar experiences from activists worldwide. 

This is also my experience as someone with an invisible disability. I’m sure that everyone’s experience is different, and some of the readers of this article may not relate to what I have written no matter where they live. This is awesome because we all have our own unique story. I make a lot of generalisations in this article, and those generalisations certainly don’t apply to everyone. I am just expressing my experience in the best way I can.

I have experienced widespread chronic pain since the age of seven. I went from being a relatively “normal” (if accident-prone) girl to experiencing severe pain every day of my life. Slowly my condition deteriorated until I required the use of walking aids for a large chunk of my life (and I still do). I went through years of bullying and what I can only consider being “medical abuse” (mistreatment from medical professionals; such as being called a faker and being forced to take medication that caused severe side effects), which almost broke me.

As I grew into my voice I decided that I would be an advocate; not only for myself but for everyone with similar experiences to mine. I started with the basics: social media. Whenever I noticed an injustice towards people with disabilities, whether it be against me directly or against someone else, I would speak out. I then started writing articles about my experiences, which I love. And now, I’m a part of a panel run by the local Ministry of Education aimed at making education more inclusive to disabled students. This is just the beginning of my advocacy journey, and I can’t wait to see where it leads me in the future.

My advocacy journey on social media

Throughout my advocacy efforts, I have noticed that many people on social media bristle when advocates like me bring up serious issues addressing the disabled community. I have been dismissed, insulted, and verbally abused online by people who will do anything to defend injustices against vulnerable people. I decided recently that I wanted to analyse their viewpoint and understand why, so I thought the perfect way to do this would be to write out my analysis and my thoughts in article format so I can share it with you all. This article addresses the question featured in the title: Why does our culture react so negatively to disability activism?

Ableist preconceptions that exist culturally regarding disability:

When we take a deep look at how the topic of disabilities is covered in the media, it is actually quite shocking. For example, I have an issue with the tv show called “The Undateables”, which is a dating show about people with disabilities finding love. While I believe that disabled people (including myself) should have the opportunity to find love just like everyone else and appreciate the representation this show provides, I don’t support that show because of the title’s connotation and denotation. Using the term “undateable” to describe an entire group of people is downright insulting. You’d never see a media organisation calling someone who’s from any other minority group (but who is not disabled) “undateable”. 

I am not “undateable”. My brothers are not “undateable”. My friends are not “undateable”. No person should be labelled “undateable” for something they can not control. This is just one example of society’s ingrained ableism that many people are blind to.

We’re to be pitied, but not listened to. This is another ableist preconception I’ve witnessed. Often disabled people are portrayed to be these pitied, helpless beings who need charity, not a voice. We must be passive to maintain this image otherwise we are labelled as “trolls” or “entitled”. I’ve been told that if I can walk and/or articulate then I’m not disabled enough to complain about facing injustices. That is so incredibly wrong, especially since if people like us who can speak up don’t, then who will? 

Ableist preconceptions that exist culturally regarding disability

I’ve also been told that I should stop using my disability “as my personality” when I responded to a post on social media. Actually, I’ve been told this multiple times. That is one of the most ableist things I have heard to date. I’m sorry that I can’t “turn off” my disability. I experience pain every single second of my life. It impacts my ability to sleep, my ability to sit, my ability to stand, my ability to walk, my ability to work, my ability to study, and my ability to socialise. Am I supposed to forget that? Not only that, but why shouldn’t I fight for injustices against people with disabilities to end?

Invisible disabilities make people uncomfortable:

Many people feel like they have to see something to believe it, which is fine until you start talking about invisible illnesses and disabilities. If I’m not using my cane, you couldn’t tell I’m disabled just by looking at me. And yet, my disability impacts all aspects of my life, whether I’m using my cane or not. Many times I have had people accuse me of faking my disability on my activism posts, telling me that I don’t “look” disabled and that I’m just “lazy”. I’ve had to grow up listening to this from my peers throughout my childhood so it doesn’t bother me as much as it used to. I’ve become desensitised. However, this behaviour needs to be addressed, because next time it could be said to someone who is not experienced dealing with this kind of harassment.

The disability rights movement isn’t as “trendy” as other human rights movements:

This point may be a bit controversial, however, I think it’s important to talk about. As a disclaimer, I’m not trying to tear other movements down to lift up disability awareness, I am simply comparing current cultural awareness and coverage of different movements in the mainstream media. I am not trying to say that either of the movements I compare disability activism to below deserve less attention, because I believe they deserve all the coverage they are getting, if not more. I also believe that the disability awareness movement should have just as much coverage as these movements so that they’re all at an equal platform.

LGBTQIA+ pride, for example. We have pride parades and Pride Month, events dedicated to raising awareness about discrimination against people within the LGBTQIA+ community, and LGBTQIA+ merchandise specifically aimed at raising awareness and money for charities that support this goal, which is a great cause. Companies change their logos or advertising media to reflect these events to show their solidarity, which is amazing. There are even multiple public spaces in my country that have been painted rainbow to celebrate Pride, such as town squares and selected zebra crossings. Feminism is another example. We have the women’s march, international women’s day, feminist merchandise, and a tonne of events targeted at raising awareness about discrimination against women. Both of these movements are prominent in pop culture and get a large amount of media coverage, as they should. 

The disability rights movement isn't as "trendy" as other human rights movements

I just wish we could see the same effort go into raising awareness about discrimination against people within the disability community, as well as a similar amount of media coverage of these efforts. Where are the disability awareness parades? In my country, there are none. There are disability awareness days, however, I have yet to see the mainstream media address them. The inequities of identity awareness in our culture is definitely an interesting topic to think about.

Disability activism is not “convenient”

Part of disability activism is confronting people who are taking advantage of disabled people just to make their own lives more convenient. For example, calling out people who park in disabled parks without a permit, or sharing public service announcements about misuse of disabled toilets. When I mention the misuse of disabled toilets, I don’t mean them being used by someone with an invisible disability. People with invisible disabilities have as much right to use the disabled toilet as every other disabled person. When I mention the misuse of disabled toilets I’m talking about the people who have no impairment what-so-ever (or aren’t assisting someone with an impairment) who just use the disabled toilet just because it’s there. 

I have witnessed people without disability parking permits parking in disability parking many times. When called out on it, their response is often “I’ll just be a few minutes.” That is one of the most common responses, along with resorting to verbal abuse when someone mentions their lack of a permit. I have made posts about these occurrences on my town bulletin Facebook pages, and every single time I have received abuse from people who see no issue with parking in one of these parks without a permit. I get told that I’m entitled, even though I paid for my permit to use those parks, while the abusers that park there don’t. How am I entitled for asking to use a service that I pay for?

Privileged people who lack empathy don’t like having their privileges, even the privileges that aren’t rightfully theirs to begin with, taken away.

There’s also the issue of inaccessible public spaces or stores. Renovating an area to ensure it is accessible by everyone may not be cheap, but it is necessary. Calling out local businesses that exclude disabled people from their stores and spaces is extremely important.

Disability activism is not “convenient” especially when it addresses the misuse of disability parking and disability toilets

During my advocacy journey (despite it being a short one at this point, I only started about 4 years ago) I have faced a lot of feedback. Some of it good, some of it bad, most of it respectful. However, I have also faced a lot of abuse, mostly online, for standing up for what I believe in. Sometimes, for a brief moment, I consider giving up, but then I remember the people that have thanked me for speaking out. This article is dedicated to them. I long for a day when disability activism is no longer controversial, and people no longer have to fight for their voices to be heard.

Amy Clements is a 20-year-old who has lived with chronic pain, the result of Fibromyalgia, since childhood. In her teens she was diagnosed with Complex Regional Pain Syndrome in her wrist, which was the result of a netball injury. Amy lives in New Zealand and studies Business part-time at University. She enjoys reading novels and writing. She especially enjoys writing about her experience with chronic illness.

The Best Foods That Help Manage Eczema

The Best Foods That Help Manage Eczema

Eczema is a skin condition that primarily affects infants and children. It is a type of dermatitis which could be chronic or sometimes relapsing. Eczema is skin inflammation that can cause itchiness, redness, swelling, and pain, and can range from mild to severe. Although the exact cause is unknown, overactive immune systems are known to be responsible for eczema. However, it can also be genetic. Asthma and hay fever can also cause eczema. Other skin disorders or disease, infections, or loss of moisture are also known to trigger eczema. 

The skin of children is more sensitive than adults, and children are more likely to be exposed to irritants as they drool, touch, and play with stuff that could have irritants on them. This makes children more prone to being affected by eczema.

The types of ezcema:

Contact dermatitis is caused when the skin comes into contact with the substances that harm the skin or set off allergies. The common triggers of this skin reaction are soaps, cosmetics, perfumes, and jewelry. Contact dermatitis can lead to infection if the area is repeatedly scratched and the area starts to ooze. This becomes a good place for bacteria and fungi to grow.

Dyshidrotic eczema causes blisters to form on your feet or hands. These blisters are itchy and can be filled with fluid. High-stress levels, allergies, excessive sweating, and staying for too long in water are the common causes of dyshidrotic eczema.

Exposure to allergens such as pollen can impact eczema

Nummular eczema manifests as circular spots or patches that form on the skin as a result of an injury, burn, or insect bites. These spots are often itchy and can be well defined. Nummular eczema is more common in adult men in their later ages, however, women in their middle ages also are at risk of developing it.

Seborrheic dermatitis generally occurs on the scalp, face, and chest. The common symptoms of this condition are scaly skin, red patches, and sometimes it could also appear in the form of dandruff on the scalp. Mild shampoos are generally recommended for treating this condition on the scalp. 

Stasis dermatitis generally occurs when the blood circulation in veins is disrupted, and the blood leaks out of the vessels and into the skin. The most commonly affected areas are the legs. Swelling, dryness, and scaly texture are the common symptoms of stasis dermatitis. The condition is more common in women and adults who are in their fifties. 

Foods that help manage eczema:

There are various natural remedies for eczema. Foods such as bananas, berries, salmon fish, sauerkraut juice, turmeric, lemonade, whole grains, probiotics, etc., can play a significant role in treating eczema naturally.

Foods that help manage eczema:

Beetroot is one of the highly recommended foods for managing eczema, it is said to boost liver detoxification and remove harmful chemicals that could trigger eczema. They are also one of the excellent purifiers of blood which promotes healthy skin. Vitamin C in beetroot can help in clearing skin blemishes caused by eczema. 

Celery is filled with electrolytes and essential vitamins such as vitamin K and vitamin C, which are highly essential for promoting skin health. It is also a rich antioxidant that detoxifies the liver, which in turn can help improve the condition of eczema. Celery juice can also help in treating acne and psoriasis

Salmon is rich in omega-3 fatty acids, which can help fight inflammation related to eczema and other health conditions. It is also loaded with essential nutrients such as vitamin B and selenium, which protects and improves the overall condition of the skin. The other vital components of salmon fish also strengthen the immune system, which boosts the body’s natural ability to fight eczema from the inside. 

Salmon helps fight inflammation and may help treat eczema

Turmeric is one of the oldest remedies used in treating eczema and other skin disorders. The anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties of turmeric reduce inflammation and help protect the skin from eczema. The natural antiseptic properties also inhibit any infections from eczema. Turmeric can help decrease blemishes, redness, and sooth the skin.

Probiotics. Foods containing probiotics or probiotic supplements contain good bacteria that are said to ease the symptoms of eczema. Probiotics also enrich the immune system, which could have been disrupted when the person is affected by eczema. Probiotics are also known to reduce inflammation, which is one of the symptoms of eczema. Yogurt is one of the best sources of probiotics.

Bananas are rich in vitamin A, which plays a vital role in moisturizing the skin and preventing dryness. Bananas are also loaded with essential fat that is used in many lotions that are used in treating eczema. Potassium in bananas also helps in soothing the effects of eczema.  

Food can be used as a natural remedy in many other ways too, such as to treat conditions such as chronic diarrhea.

Foods to avoid:

Foods to avoid while experiencing eczema:

While some foods can help manage the symptoms of eczema, others can trigger eczema and make it worse.

Listed below are some of the foods to avoid:

  • Broccoli
  • Dried fruits
  • Citrus fruits
  • Gluten or wheat
  • Spices
  • Tomatoes

While a healthy diet and lifestyle are vital in managing eczema, getting a proper diagnosis and treatment from a doctor is highly recommended. Especially when it comes to children, parents should not rely only on natural remedies to treat eczema. It could make the conditions worse. Natural remedies should only be used under a doctor’s supervision.

About the author:

Emylee is a wellness lifestyle writer. She loves sharing her thoughts and personal experiences related to natural remedies, yoga, and fitness through her writing. She currently writes for How To Cure. She can connect with others experiencing health concerns and help them through their recovery journeys through natural remedies.

My 7 Steps For Coping With a Chronic Condition

My 7 Steps For Coping With a Chronic Condition

Being diagnosed with a terminal or chronic illness can be disorienting and disappointing. But as you accept it with time, you will learn to cope with your illness by making changes in your lifestyle. Stress affects everybody, and suffering from long term health conditions may make you vulnerable to the struggles stress can bring. You may appear to be absolutely fine on the outside, but inside, you might be torn apart by the stresses of being constantly dependent on someone for doctor appointments or having to clean up, go outside, run errands, etc. To persevere the spirit to live must be there. No matter what you are suffering from, being aware of the conditions and taking precautions can ease the everyday struggle. The more positively you can handle the struggle, the easier it will be to take care of the challenges.

My 7 ways to cope with a chronic condition:

Acceptance:

Often a lot of turmoil lies in mind. Accepting being terminally ill or having to suffer from a lifelong condition such as diabetes or thyroid issues takes time for acceptance. Once you’ve accepted it, it puts your mind at ease and allows you to look for ways to combat the disease while living your life. Take your time but accept your current situation as that is only when the mind will start to look for a solution.

Look for support:

We all need people that support us when we go through a tough time, and when experiencing illness, having a strong support system is half of the journey. Having your friends and family with you during these times can boost up your confidence. Do not worry about the toxic relationships in your life and only focus on people who add positivity to your life. Value the people who love and care about you and make them a part of your inner circle. Social media is also a great place to get support from those experiencing similar conditions to you.

Look for support when coping with a chronic condition

Gain more information about your condition:

When you are suffering from a chronic condition, it is always safer to have a thorough understanding of the disease and its conditions. If you have doubts and questions, don’t hesitate to ask your doctor. You may also research online or look for support groups to gain more knowledge about the condition. Keep track of the symptoms your body exhibits and get to know your body better. Analyze methods that may help to manage symptoms related to your condition and share details with your healthcare provider.

Manage symptoms of depression:

People suffering from chronic illness go through a wide range of emotions. You may feel weary, drained out, and be in a dark place due to the condition and the symptoms you experience. A lot of people miss out on their regular doctor’s appointments and skip medications, which ends up in further aggravating the condition. It is important to be well informed about the symptoms of depression and how to tackle them. Speak to a therapist if necessary.

Take your medications on schedule:

It is often hard to remember to take medication, it’s even harder to remember if you have to take 10 of them. Set a reminder or an alarm on your phone to remind you to take your medicines on time. Remember the names of the medicines you are taking and get a deeper insight into the drugs you are recommended. Speak to your doctor to learn more about each drug and its side effects, why you’re taking them, if you may discontinue them in the future, etc.

Take your medications on schedule if you are coping with a chronic condition

Live in the present:

Suffering from a lifelong disease can make you worry and fear the future, but the best way to live one’s life is to focus on the present. Always follow the rule of ‘Be Here And Now.’ Focus on what you’re doing; if you are eating, be conscious of what you’re eating, what color food you are eating, etc. It keeps the mind focused on the present activity and prevents it from wandering off in unprecedented directions. 

Find something you love to do:

Practicing a hobby is therapy in itself. Whether it’s painting, gardening, or reading a book, find out what you like and do it. Hobbies can bring joy, a feeling of productivity, and a distraction from the suffering of real life.

Coping with a chronic illness can be difficult, but there are methods that can make this easier. Live in the moment and take baby steps every day. Changes don’t happen overnight, but as long as you make progress, you’re doing great.

About the Author:

Henna is a wellness lifestyle writer. She loves sharing her thoughts and personal experiences related to natural remedies, Ayurvedic, yoga and fitness through her writing. She currently writes for How To Cure. She can connect with others experiencing health concerns and help them through their recovery journeys through natural remedies.

Hyperhidrosis and The Realities of Living with Excessive Sweating

Living with hyperhidrosis can be challenging. The contents of this article may seem like too much personal information about bodily functions for some people, however, I feel that hyperhidrosis is something that is not talked about a lot in the chronic illness community. We need to delve into the TMI (too much information) realm to discuss it.

I used to think that I was a gross freak of nature for sweating so much, but after connecting with other people who experience a similar thing I realized that it is more common than I thought.

hyperhidrosis

What is hyperhidrosis?

Hyperhidrosis is abnormally excessive sweating that is not always related to heat or exercise. Someone with hyperhidrosis may sweat so much that it soaks their clothes and drips down their face and hands. People normally sweat when they exercise, are hot, are anxious or under stress. The sweat that accompanies hyperhidrosis far exceeds this normal level of sweating. Hyperhidrosis can also be made worse by factors such as heat, exercise, sweat, stress or anxiety.

Primary Focal (Essential) Hyperhidrosis

The most common form of hyperhidrosis is primary focal (essential) hyperhidrosis. This occurs when the nerves responsible for signalling your sweat glands malfunction and become overactive. This type of hyperhidrosis usually affects the palms of your hands, the soles of your feet, and in some cases your face. There is no determined cause for this type of hyperhidrosis, however, it may be hereditary as it runs in families.

Secondary Hyperhidrosis

Secondary hyperhidrosis occurs when it is a symptom of another medical issue. It is more likely to cause widespread excessive sweating than primary hyperhidrosis. Conditions that may result in excessive sweating can include:

  • Thyroid issues
  • Diabetes
  • Infections
  • Some types of cancer
  • Heart issues
  • Nervous system disorders

Some medications can also cause excessive sweating.

Experiencing Fibromyalgia with Hyperhidrosis

My secondary hyperhidrosis is caused by my severe fibromyalgia, which is a central nervous system disorder. While some of the medications can cause secondary hyperhidrosis, my experiences with excessive sweating began in childhood, long before I started taking these specific medications, but after I started suffering from chronic pain.

Of course, weight can impact how much you sweat, and I am overweight. However, as said above, I have been experiencing this excessive sweating since before I was even a teenager, and I weighed nothing close then to what I weigh now.

How Hyperhidrosis Impacts Social Situations

Work: If your job is in any way stressful and you deal with hyperhidrosis, you may find you sweat a lot at work. If you work around others, such as in a customer relations role or in the office, the excess sweating may make you anxious about how others may perceive you. This anxiety may impact your productivity if it becomes severe. Hyperhidrosis may also impact your opportunity of gaining new employment if it becomes problematic during job interviews. Since sweating is usually a sign of anxiety, even the calmest person with hyperhidrosis may look extremely anxious to the interviewer. This could have a severe impact as to whether you are chosen for the job. Shaking hands can also be a source of anxiety particularly if you have primary focal hyperhidrosis which causes sweaty palms.

Night clubs: As a young adult, every once in awhile I like to go to a night club and dance with my friends. Even though I find this extremely draining, I like to experience just a few hours of normality. Many nightclubs are crowded and warm. Hello Extreme Flare! It can be difficult to enjoy myself knowing that I have sweat visibly dripping down my face. This can also impact my chances of meeting new people and starting new relationships. , The excessive sweating may cause people to judge me before they get to know me. This is definitely a disadvantage for the single girl like me.

Any social occasion: Hyperhidrosis can impact any situation. Going to a café, a theme park, the beach, the movies and attending school are all different for a person that has to consider excessive sweat. Hyperhidrosis and extra sweating can become a source of anxiety at any time, but when it’s flaring especially when it’s flaring.

Tips and Tricks for Coping With Hyperhidrosis and Excessive Sweating

Now that I’ve listed the ways hyperhidrosis may negatively impact social situations, I will now tell you my tips and tricks for coping with hyperhidrosis and living with excessive sweating that I have developed throughout my own experience.

Waterproof Makeup

The facial sweating that is the result if hyperhidrosis can ruin any makeup you may be wearing. I personally love wearing makeup every once in a while for nights out or on a day I feel like dressing up. Unfortunately, if I’m not careful with what products I use my makeup can end up dripping down my face. Utilizing a good primer and a waterproof foundation and concealer are a good start. Make sure your mascara and eyeliner is waterproof if you enjoy using those products. You can even find inexpensive brands at your local retailer and online. Many brands meet these suggestions.

Dressing in Light Layers

Very many people live in a place where the weather can go from cold to hot within a few hours. Dressing in light layers is the way to go. If you also suffer from temperature control issues spring layering is good strategy for you, too. Utilize cardigans because not only are they light but they also don’t take up too much room in a bag while out and about. If it is chilly in the morning wear a t-shirt and a cardigan over top. It is easy to take take it off later on in the day.

Portable Fans

hyperhidrosis

This may seem a bit extreme, but if you’re prone to over-heating on a regular basis like I am, a portable fan can be invaluable. I got one for $8 from The Warehouse, and I love it. It’s rechargeable by USB and has multiple levels of intensity. This would be perfect for days at university during summer, long days of traveling, or days when you’re spending a lot of time outside in the heat.

Apply Multiple Layers of Antiperspirant

With secondary hyperhidrosis the sweat under your arms can become excessive and can be very hard to manage. Recently I have started using multiple layers of antiperspirant using two different types and I find this helps well for summer. I use a cream antiperspirant under my arms first and then a spray antiperspirant on top. While this does not completely stop underarm hyperhidrosis it does make it more manageable. There are some more aggressive options you may discuss with your health provider in some places.

Body Wipes and Shower-less Body Wash

If you have hyperhidrosis and live with excessive sweating in addition to chronic illness then managing your hygiene can be very difficult. Bathing, for example, can be very difficult for those who experience symptoms such as chronic pain and fatigue. Some days many Chargie’s do not have the energy to shower. Other days I may end up perspiring a lot requiring multiple showers. In these cases it is convenient to use deodorant body wipes or shower-less body wash. Deodorant wipes are targeted especially at lessening odor. Shower-less body wash can be used without washing it off and do the same thing. 

Many people like to use baby wipes in the place of deodorant body wipes. I find that baby wipes don’t work very well in comparison. Products specifically targeted at killing sweat caused germs and odor do a much better job, and I find that body wipes are more moist with product, therefore you end up using less wipes.

When you experience hyperhidrosis and living with excessive sweating it can feel very isolating. However, there are things you can do that make coping with it a bit easier. It was also helpful for me to learn that isn’t something that I go through alone. Surrounding yourself will people who understand your condition can also make a huge difference. Having a non-judgmental environment can become your social safe space. I know that when I start sweating excessively my close friends won’t judge me for it. Therefore I never become anxious about it around them.

Amy Clements is a 20-year-old who has lived with chronic pain, the result of Fibromyalgia, since childhood. In her teens she was diagnosed with Complex Regional Pain Syndrome in her wrist, which was the result of a netball injury. Amy lives in New Zealand and studies Business part-time at University. She enjoys reading novels and writing. She especially enjoys writing about her experience with chronic illness.

6 spot on memes about Fibromyalgia

Fibromyalgia is a condition that causes pain. There are many different symptoms that can range from pain, fatigue, migraines to insomnia, inflammation and sensory overload.

When you live with Fibromyalgia or know someone who lives with it, you may recognise what they are talking about in the memes.

Taking a shower can cause pain. When the pressure of the water is too high, or the warmth. The water hitting against the skin can cause real pain. This is one of the reasons I don’t like taking showers. Next to it causing pain, it’s super exhausting too.

The little monster in the meme is called Gia. She is the Chargimal that represents Fibromyalgia. Together with her friends she has adventures, but with caution cause she is low on energy due to her Fibro. You can learn more about her and the other Chargimals over here

Brain fog is a symptom of Fibromyalgia

I pick my clothes based on which body parts hurts the least that day. That’s also how I pick which chair to sit in today.

the answer is yes, every day

Living with Fibromyalgia is not for the weak. There is no known cure, and keeping symptoms and flare to a minimum is hard to do.

At least it’s not cancer…

at least its not cancer

Let me start of by saying, I am very happy I don’t have cancer. It’s a horrible disease and I don’t wish it on anyone. That being said, telling me “At least it’s not cancer” is not making me feel any better.

Fibromyalgia the mysterious disease

I live with Fibromyalgia, there’s not a whole lot known about the disease. We have recently found out that it’s a progressive neuro-disease. At least that’s what they think now. It changes about every year, because the fact is, they really don’t know. It’s mysterious and there is no cure.

I am in pain every single day, the pain travels through my body. I never know how bad it’s gonna be, where it’s gonna show up or if I’m even able to function at all.

With fibromyalgia comes the fibro fog, or brain fog. That means that it feels like there is a thick fog in my brain preventing me to think clearly. Or even find the simplest of words, in any laguage for that matter (I speak three on a daily basis)

Next to my Fibromyalgia I have been diagnosed with Graves’ disease and Hashimoto’s disease (both autoimmune thyroid disorders), Celiac disease and Raynauds disease (both autoimmune as well). They say when you have one autoimmune disease, more will follow. Why is that though?

Many vague symptoms

Prior to being diagnosed with any of my conditions I had a long list of vague symptoms that didn’t seem to correlate to eachother. The first thing they test for is cancer. It’s the most well known disease that can show itself in different ways.

Along with a bunch of other test, including general autoimmune (ANA) test they came back. All your test results are negative. You are the picture of perfect health.

doctors don't know what's causing my symptoms

People around me were relieved. “At least it’s not cancer”. While I was relieved I didn’t have cancer, I still did’t know why I felt so ill all the time.

Graves’ Disease

At the young age of 19, after 3 years of being tested on a range of things without any results, this one came back positive. I had Graves’ disease. It was so extreme and in such far stages, that my main symptom (being out of breath) was caused by the strain on my heart.

At the age of 19 I was rushed into the heart monitor room because they were afraid I could have a heart attack at any moment.

But at least it’s not cancer, right?

The way to treat Graves’ disease back then, is to give you some type of chemo therapy, to slow your thyroid down. By the way chemo therapy is also used on patients with Lupus, RA and other autoimmune conditions as a treatment option.

A decade later

Fast forward a decade and some. The Graves’ disease is in remission, yay! I’ve gotten all the new diagnosis I’ve mentioned above. But also a msyterious new thing that is making me loose weight, fast. Very fast!

Even though I eat plenty, I keep loosing weight. Again they have done a lot of test, tested for cancer again. All clear. “At least it’s not cancer” someone says to me. Uhm that’s all nice and all, but I am loosing weight so rapidly that my organs are now in danger of failling. And they can’t figure out why.

lot's of health lab tests without a result

“At least it’s not cancer” is again not making me feel any better.

6 months go by, and I weigh 45kg/99 lbs and I am 1.73cm/5 feet 7 I am very very underweight. Finally they figure out I have a bacteria causing all my issues and the road to recovery can begin. Yet again

What does the future hold?

At this point in time I think I have all my autoimmune issues and other health stuff under control. They are chronic, meaning they will never go away. The furture is uncertain, because we simply don’t know how my issues will progess with time.

I have new undiagnosed issues, like my teeth dissolving from the inside out. No idea why that is happening, but we’re trying to treat it.

I concider myself very lucky that I don’t have cancer. That is a fact. It’s also not what the article is about. My point is, there are things that are just as bad and deadly as cancer. And things that need to be treated the same way as cancer. The diagnosis “not cancer” isn’t always a good one. Please remember that when you tell your friend next time “At least it’s not cancer”

Going to Movie Theatres with Cerebral Palsy and Epilepsy (My Personal Experiences)

My Experiences Going to Movie Theatres with Cerebral Palsy and Epilepsy

Like many people, I have always enjoyed going to the movies with my friends and family. My favorite types of movies to go see are comedies and films based on true stories. However, due to my Cerebral Palsy and my mild form of epilepsy, I also dread going to the movie theatre because of how it can affect both of these conditions.

When it comes to having spastic Cerebral Palsy, I tend not to do so well with loud noises and screaming since it makes me jump. The flashing lights and moving colors that are often on theatre screens are not good for people with epilepsy. As a result, whenever I go to the cinema I have to worry about what may happen if this movie has a scene where there is a lot of flashing lights or moving colors, or if it has loud noises that could make me jump and cause other movie go-ers to stare at me.

Dealing with self conciousness

Each of these disabilities impacts my life in different ways and sometimes it makes me very cautious about going out to certain places because of the responses that I get from the people around me. My body has a mind of its own, which can get out of control when it’s triggered by my epilepsy. It shakes and moves around and I have no idea what’s going on with my body. I don’t know if there will ever be a time where I can go to the theatres and be comfortable to enjoy the movie without a single worry on my mind.

Dealing with self-consciousness when going to the movies with epilepsy
Pictured above: Author, Tylia, at a movie theatre.

How movies could be made epilepsy friendly

It would be nice to be able to enjoy certain movies without having to be cautious about them having flashing lights or loud noises in them. This could be made possible if filmmakers would gain more awareness about epilepsy and other conditons, and how these conditions affect movie goers that enjoy movies but also have to worry about their epilepsy or other symptoms being triggered during the movie.

This would mean that people like myself could enjoy films and head out to the theatre more often without a single worry about their bodies or having to deal with the stress of not being able to enjoy the film because of their health. My combination of Cerebral Palsy and epilepsy together cause me to experience this stress every time I see a movie.

Movies could be made epilepsy friendly

Until filmmakers make efforts to change this I will continue to go to the cinema and watch brand new movies because I refuse to miss out on things that everyone should be able to enjoy.

About the Author:

Tylia Flores is a 24-year-old born with cerebral palsy. Although her condition has affected her mobility, it has never affected her will and determination to make a difference in the world. Through her many life challenges and obstacles, she discovered her passion for writing. Tylia’s goal in life is to share her stories with the world.

What Helps Me to Stay Strong (Through My Family’s Chronic Illness Journey)

What Helps Me to Stay Strong (Through My Family's Chronic Illness Journey)

I’ve always found it difficult to share my feelings with other people. I would keep it all to myself. This, however, changed when we received the latest diagnosis for both my daughters. 

Let me start by giving you some background information about me and my family: It’s just me and my girls, and we live in Holland. We are also known as the bendy bunch, all three of us have Ehlers Danlos syndrome. And as a bonus, we all have some similar and some different additional illnesses (which we like to refer to as extra toppings). Mine are adenomyosis, dilated aorta, retinal vein occlusions, high blood pressure, and I no longer have my own teeth. Both my daughters have POTS, ME and as we know now since June this year Craniocervical Instability (CCI), Atlantoaxial instability (AAI), hindbrain herniation, and the youngest is close to brainstem compression. When they were giving out chronical illnesses, we were obviously front in line… And I’m pretty sure I forgot to write some of them down. 

The shock of these new diagnoses

The latest diagnoses were a shock. We’ve been dealing with chronic illnesses for quite a while now, but this one really gave me a scare. Not one, but both my girls have a life-threatening and life-limiting disease. And as I usually do when I get stressed, I started planning and thinking about what could be done to fix this. I turned to the insurance company, but the treatment, an operation done in another country, wasn’t covered. This didn’t come as a big surprise, because we had to go to another country for the diagnosis which, as you can probably guess, was also not covered.

The stress of receiving new, life threatening diagnoses

As I continued to process this, my thoughts went in all different directions as my emotions went into a spin. You wouldn’t have known that, though. On the outside I was calm and rational, and I tried to stay that way. I had to be strong for my daughters. They needed to know that everything would be okay, or at least, as normal as possible. When we received the news about these diagnoses, the adrenaline took over and I went into first, second and third gear. I’m still feeling it after two months because if I let go of this adrenaline, I’m afraid I’ll break down. And that’s not an option. 

Creating a Foundation and Establishing a Social Media Presence

In the last two moths following the diagnoses I started a foundation called Help Jane & Rosa battle CCI/AAI. We had to go to a notary office to make it official. As a result of the Dutch tax laws, I found that a foundation is the best way to go. Otherwise, all donations would be considered an income. Friends of mine built the website, and I deliver all of the text and images. We have also created a Facebook page, an Instagram account, a Twitter account and a YouTube channel. Unfortunately, most of the videos on our YouTube channel are in Dutch, however we try to make some English versions too.

How blogging has helped me cope with my family's chronic illness journey

Filming these videos was really awkward for me. In the beginning of this article I mentioned that I’m not a great sharer, but as you can see, I’ve stepped outside all of those boundaries I once had. Writing about what’s going on in our lives is one thing, however filming videos was a huge step for me. If you want a grin you should check it out. Even with me speaking in Dutch you can see how exposed and awkward I feel. Luckily my daughters, especially Jane, are taking care of the video aspect. This meant I could start writing a blog for our website. All this work establishing a social media presence is to raise more awareness and to fight for an operation for both of my girls.

The Support of Friends, Family, and Aquiantances

I always knew I had great friends and family (not all of my family has been supportive, but who has a perfect family?) but what really surprised me is how supportive even my colleagues have been. Not only have they supported me by making a donation, they have also done so much more. One started designing T-shirts, one started developing calendars, and Jane’s old school of is thinking about a project for raising funds. They offer help in any way they can. I know not everyone is so lucky, and for me, receiving all this support was a true eye opener.

I realised that not only was I bad at sharing, I was also reluctant to ask for help. I surprised a lot of people by reaching out for help, and as the time goes by, it gets easier to do so. I still blush when I do, especially when I do it face to face. But I’m managing it and it makes me proud that I do. Today during a coffee break at work, I asked the owner of the coffee bar if he could share our fundraising page and make a donation. And again, the warmth of people was overwhelming.

The support of my friends, family, and acquaintances is very important

On the workdays I’ve been drinking my morning coffee there for over the last five years, my daughters’ illnesses have come up in some conversation. He was very concerned for their health and immediately started thinking about things he could do to help. This shows that even acquaintances are sometimes more than just people you meet now and then. The bond you have with them is sometimes stronger than you think.

All Of This Helps Me To Stay Strong

Blogging and writing about how I feel what’s going on, and where we stand is really helping me cope. Sometimes it puts things into perspective or helps me to channel my emotions in a constructive way. Today I felt sad while I was going to work. I was quiet during a meeting because my thoughts were all over the place and I felt like I could burst into tears at any moment. So, I started writing this article, thinking about all that has happened in the past two months and all that I’ve achieved. And for a chronically ill mum, with chronically ill daughters, I feel like that’s a lot.

So, I’ll keep you posted about how all of these illnesses have an effect on us and our lives, about how the fundraising is going and what difficulties comes with raising funds, and how all of this mixes with work and day to day life. Sometimes it’ll be sad, sometimes it’ll be fun and sometimes it’s just how it is. Because every day is different and life don’t always turns out as planned. And that’s okay, as long as we have each other we’ll get wherever we want to go, eventually. The love in our family will always get us through the rough spots and that’s how I stay strong. 

Monique Blaauw is a mother of two daughters (20 and 19). Founder, chair(wo)man and treasurer of the Help Jane & Rosa battle CCI/AAI foundation. She has been a single mother for 18 and a half years. Works fulltime, as well as being the caregiver for both her chronically ill daughters and older mother and is chronically ill herself. 

Service Dogs (The Pros & Cons)

There are definite pros and cons to having a service dog.  First, I will point out a few differences between service dogs, emotional support animals, and therapy dogs.  Service dogs (SD) are a dog or miniature horse trained for specific tasks to help mitigate a disability that the person cannot do on their own. An emotional support animal (ESA) is a pet that provides emotional support that doesn’t need specialized training.  A therapy dog helps others by providing comfort, these ones you see go to nursing homes, hospitals, schools, etc…  Service dogs can go everywhere the general public is allowed to go, with a few exceptions (operating rooms, religious places that don’t allow animals, food preparation areas).  ESAs are only allowed in housing/apartments or on an airplane or a travel bus, with a letter from a doctor, counselor, or psychiatrist.  These are important differences because this will come up later in this blog and other ones that I write in the future. I will start with the pros of having a service dog, for me personally, then cover the cons obviously.

The Benefits Of Having A Service Dogs

I will be keeping this part mostly serious, with possibly a few sarcastic remarks that I will point out as sarcasm.  A benefit of a service dog/mini horse is that it will help provide a little bit more independence in your life, that is if you have a debilitating disability and the dog helps mitigate that disability (as per the ADA law and not your doctor).  The dog/mini horse is trained, either by the owner themselves, a dog trainer that is knowledgeable on service dogs, or a facility. 

A benefit of a service dog/mini horse is that it will help provide a little bit more independence in your life, that is if you have a debilitating disability and the dog helps mitigate that disability

They are trained to perform specific tasks to help their handler with things the handler cannot do.  A very common service dog/mini horse task is guiding the blind.  This is where the dog/mini horse will help the handler avoid obstacles and lead them up to a counter, etc… the animal does not know directions like google maps does, let me restate that, the dog/mini horse cannot just take their handler to Starbucks on a single command like “go to Starbucks”. The handler has to know the way, through memorization or google maps, to get there and the animal just keeps them from harm or gets them to crosswalks and helps them cross them safely.  This is a common misconception that I have heard plenty of times.  

Another main misconception that I hear is that there are only a couple types of service dogs/mini horses like guiding the blind and helping people in wheelchairs with retrieving items and opening doors.  There is in fact a wide range of different tasks that the service dog/mini horse can do.  There is mobility, balance, retrieval of items, PTSD (multitude of tasks that are performed for this one), guiding the blind, hearing alert for the deaf, performing everyday tasks (ie. Laundry, opening doors, getting items from the fridge, etc.), seizures, diabetes alert, heart alert, blood pressure, psychiatric, autism, allergy detection, medical alerting, etc. The list can go on because the tasks/jobs depend on the handler and their needs.

Pros of Service Dogs

They help the person be able to be independent with everyday tasks and help the handler to get out of the house for simple errands.  For this part, I’m going to list the pros for me with my service dog since this can be a specific thing.  I get to go out of the house with the help of my service dog because she helps me walk, no I’m not blind….  My first service dog was trained for mobility, balance, retrieval of items, alerting for vertigo, allergy detection, and protection (I’ll explain this in a moment).  My current service dog, 2.0 (sarcasm), is trained for mobility, balance, bracing, retrieval of items, alerting for vertigo and medical alerts, allergy detection, overheating, anxiety/panic attacks, and PTSD (this is where the “protection” came in with my first dog, but did not have the diagnosis until a few years later). 

y current service dog, 2.0 (sarcasm), is trained for mobility, balance, bracing, retrieval of items, alerting for vertigo and medical alerts, allergy detection, overheating, anxiety/panic attacks, and PTSD

This benefits me because I feel comfortable going out into public because I know I am safe and my dog will help me be completely independent.  I got to feel normal for a bit there and did not have to wonder if I had energy to get my wheelchair out of my car or not (I no longer use a wheelchair at this point in time).  I know other pros are that I am able to avoid allergens without feeling the need to avoid going out in public places with the fear of coming across it. I have had a significant drop in anxiety/panic attacks and debilitating vertigo attacks.  My SD helps with avoiding triggers for my PTSD and vertigo.  For me, the pros outweighed the cons with a service dog.

Cons of Service Dogs

This one is a bit easier to write for me only because I found out about the cons after I had gotten my SD and experienced them out firsthand.  I honestly think that if I had known the cons before I got my SD, I would have chosen to stay in the wheelchair and not relearned to walk.  The main one is that you will feel like a freak show/circus act and many people will treat you as such. 

The first thing that comes to mind with this is that people will take pictures of you and your SD without asking and even post it on social media.  The captions to this can be “look at the pretty puppy! I’m going to sneak a pet when they aren’t looking!” or “this is a fake one because the person isn’t blind!”.  You will get unsolicited advice on what breed you should be using, whether you truly need one or not, what you can use instead of the SD, or they will try to educate you on the laws….incorrectly…. I have had people be downright rude and mean towards me.  I have had death threats because I’m “torturing” my SD for “forcing” her to work. 

The first thing that comes to mind with this is that people will take pictures of you and your SD without asking and even post it on social media.  The captions to this can be “look at the pretty puppy! I’m going to sneak a pet when they aren’t looking!”

I have had people scream at me for lying and saying that I am disabled when I look “perfectly normal”.  People will think that they are entitled to pet your SD without asking and that they can do it because they said “hi” to the SD first.  People will assume that you are blind and try to sneak a pet when they think you can’t see and then get mad when you stop them because they were caught.  These are the people who then go straight into “so your faking being disabled! I’m going to report you!”  You will be told you are not allowed in restaurants or other establishments because they don’t’ allow pets, but if you try to educate them that the animal with you is indeed an SD they will not back down.  Some will even say that you need papers or a license for it.  In a couple of provinces in Canada, this is true, in the US it is not; as per ADA law, there is no registry or license.  

All in All

Even with all the cons, I chose to keep my Service Dog and even continue with SD 2.0, because I get my freedom (to an extent).  My SDs have saved my life a couple of times and I have been very grateful for them and all the hard work that they put into helping me.  They are both spoiled rotten and well taken care of. 

My first SD Kaiya (German shepherd, border collie, husky) is retired now and living the life!

My first SD Kaiya (German shepherd, border collie, husky) is retired now and living the life!  She gets to sleep on the couch when she wants, plays, eats and sleeps.  My SD 2.0 Naomi (gladiator dane) is enjoying working thoroughly and is excited when her pack/equipment comes out that means she is going to be working.  If she loses wanting to work before she gets too old I will retire her because as handlers, we want what is best for our Service Dsog and want them to be happy doing what they do. 

If you come across a team and want to say hi, please talk to the handler and not the SD.  If we choose to not say high back or seem like we are ignoring you, please do not be offended as some days we are out even though it could be our worst day yet with energy.  Some of us are willing to answer questions and hear about your pets (yes that happens more often than you think).

About The Author

Katie McCabe is a wife and mother of two beautiful girls. She has rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, and lupus, along with a few other disabilities. She works full time at a school district in the city where she lives and will be going back to school to get her Masters. She has a service dog that helps her with being independent and able to function day to day. Follow Katie on Instagram

Working In A Gym Helped Me Changed My Perspective Amanda’s Spoonie Story

I have been a chronic illness warrior since I was 4 years old and now I’m almost 30. It’s been a long road. First, I was diagnosed with Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis, which then was complicated by Lyme Disease contracted in my early teens but not diagnosed until a decade later. Finally, in the last 3 years I have been diagnosed with Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome and Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Crossing my fingers that’s everything diagnosed!

Watching The Other Kids

Growing up I fought back a lot of bitterness and resentment as I watched the other kids, teens, and twenty-somethings living their lives. I wanted to play sports, go out dancing and drinking, get a job I loved, or at the very least not need crutches and pills to get through my day.

Growing up I fought back a lot of bitterness and resentment as I watched the other kids, teens, and twenty-somethings living their lives.

I spent decades shuffling from doctor to doctor and doing what they said, thinking of my body as a malevolent adversary more with each passing year. 

Changing My Perspective

Three years ago I got a job at a gym during a period of remission. As I learned about fitness and got deep into the strength athlete world I began to shift how I thought of my sick person lifestyle. Surrounded by people who did their PT, stuck to their diets, and took their supplements with religious intensity, I no longer felt alone. Here was a mindset I understood and, although my results didn’t look like an athlete’s, the similarity in lifestyle began to change my perspective.

There was a mindset I understood and, although my results didn't look like an athlete's, the similarity in lifestyle began to change my perspective.

Today, in recovery from one of the worst flares of my life, I balance my time between napping and gym-going. I lift weights and use a cane. I take creatine and also NSAIDs. My diet is dictated by painful digestion and I also count my macros. For the first time in my life I see my body as, at worst, a project I’m working on and, at best, my teammate in life.

The Athlete’s Approach

The athlete’s approach to chronic illness hasn’t solved all my problems. When I’m in pain for days on end I still sink into a stupor of depression. I still hate the choices I make to miss important events with my friends or give up a job I love because of my health. I may never be able to have children or pursue a high-powered successful career. But this new mindset has given me a rope to hold onto in the dark days.

On Instagram I follow a mix of powerlifters and spoonies. I find I have connections to both groups. I write meal plans and teach yoga for athletes and coach spoonies on managing their energy levels in flares and during recovery periods. I get to learn new ways to activate my quads before a squat from a powerlifter and then scroll a bit more for a new way to use turmeric to reduce inflammation from a spoonie. It’s a beautiful meeting of the worlds of sport and sickness and I’m learning to find the balance.

It Is Possible!!

I’m signed up for my first powerlifting meet this fall. I know my numbers are going to be awful and I wont be even slightly competitive in the sport. But I’m doing it. I’m getting up there and doing the thing while still being sick, which is more than my pre-athlete mindset would have even known to dream.

I spent years trying to get better so that I could do things. Now I’m trying out doing things and getting better all at once. Doing things and being chronically ill simultaneously. It’s hard. It’s a daily battle and I slip and I fail and I cry a lot. But it is possible. And I’m doing it. And you can too.