Trigger Warning, this post contains adult themes and may not be suitable for everyone.
Sexual relationships and curiosity is a natural human instinct that many consenting adults participate in, the disabled and chronically ill included. The act itself can be fraught with obstacles but enjoyable for all involved. Today we are sharing Tylia’s experience with sex and Cerebral Palsy.
The difference between sex and love is that sex relieves tension and love causes it.”– Woody Allen
Sex is something of love and compassion, but what happens if you have condition/disability like Cerebral P
Where My Curiosity Started
I was a late bloomer when it came to wanting to have sex or have the desire to have sex as a teenager. If you want me, to be honest, I thought that the idea of sex was “gross”. This was before my parents enrolled me in sex education class. The class was broken down for young teenagers with disabilities which I attended throughout middle school. I had the same mindset about sex up until my senior year of high school when I started to date my then boyfriend at 18 years old.
From the beginning of our relationship my curiosity began. It gradually happened from one day to next and the more and more we saw each other via FaceTime, the more we had fallen in love and it was the first time I would say that I’ve felt that emotion towards someone.
The more curious I became about sex and what it would feel like to have sex, eventually I started to catch feeling in that” area! At first I was in denial but then I learned to expect that I was growing up and become an adult and it was okay for me to become interested in sex and it was okay for me to want to explore that area as a young woman with a disability has long as I remember one thing: – Treat your body with respect and never let anyone take advantage of your body regardless of your disability treat your body with the most upbringing respect and always be curious about it .
My First Sexual Encounter
After dating my ex-boyfriend for about six months, we started to talk about having cybersex. At first, I was reluctant, although I was curious about it and what it would be like to be intimate together. Eventually, I finally become used to the idea of cybersex and for me, I enjoyed the rush of it and the ability to be sexually intimate although it was through technology and I think for someone who has cerebral palsy it caused me to be naive in some areas because I wasn’t able to be exposed to things
What I Learned
Looking back at my experience with being sexually active with a disability is that it’s OK to be curious about something especially if you never experienced it before but never get to carried away with something just because it’s something new and you hadn’t experience that part of life don’t let curiosity influence your choices and your decisions.
As I grow I realize that sex is something I want to wait for and enjoy when the right time comes and when i’m less curious about it
About The Author
Tylia Flores is a 24-year-old born with cerebral palsy. Although her condition has affected her mobility, it has never affected her will and determination to make a difference in the world. Through her many life challenges and obstacles, she discovered her passion for writing. Tylia’s goal in life is to share her stories with the world.